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Recognizing Negative Self Talk



What is it?

We all have an inner voice that we confer with. However positive or negative that voice is depends on how much we believe in ourselves and our capability. Today, let's focus on the voice that can sometimes destroy us, our dreams and ambition. Negative self-talk is that little voice in your head that tells you that you can’t do something, prevents you from believing in yourself, or discourages you from accomplishing something. We’ve all heard that voice in our heads that tells us we’re too fat, lazy, old, incapable or will be stuck in a situation forever. It’s the voice that makes us hard on ourselves, and if we’re not careful, the voice that makes it ok to stay stuck.


Where does it come from?

This is a question I've asked myself over and over, and honestly until therapy I didn't know self talk was a problem. I was ok talking to myself in an aggressive manner, and scolding myself when I didn’t do what I said I was going to do or perform to the standard in which I thought I should. As I've gotten deeper into my spiritual journey as well as transfers of energy, I realized how hard I was on myself and that if I wanted to grow, I had to change the way I see and talk to myself. I’ve contemplated where this voice comes from, and I found them to come from 3 main places.


1. The Downward spiral we let our minds go into

Negative self-talk begins when we think one negative thought, and then allow that thought to spiral into many other thoughts. For example, I can wake up late one day and think, “ You do this all the time. What is wrong with you?” That one thought could spiral into, now I’m going to be late for work, you won’t have time to eat, you didn’t have time to pack your lunch so now you have to buy something for lunch, now you can’t eat anything healthy for lunch, you might as well miss your workout today because you’re not going to eat healthy at lunch and your tired anyway. I just want to get the day over with and try it again tomorrow! You see how one thought and action spiraled into your whole day is ruined?! When simply it could have been, I woke up late and that’s ok, things happen. Today will be an amazing day. Take the day in small strides and celebrate the small wins throughout the day. One event does not have to make the entire day bad. This is why it is super important to stop yourself when you start thinking negative thoughts and immediately change it to a positive one. Watch how your mind and body shift into being happier and healthier. Life won’t seem so bad.


2. Underestimating the time needed to succeed

Sometimes negative self-talk comes from low balling the amount of prep work that goes into accomplishing a goal. I will never forget how excited I was to start Fearless Fitness. I had all

these ideas and an amount of money I wanted to make. I was ready to dive in head first… until I learned how many steps I was missing. I needed a business plan, branding, clients, people who believed in my product, I needed to believe in my product. I wasn’t quite there in the beginning. I thought everythi